The Gift Behind Your Big Emotions...

This week in my FB group, Wholistic Health Your Way, I shared a photo of a little child laying on the ground in a grocery store having some big feelings while her father and grandfather kept her safe and simply allowing her to express her feelings. 

Showing big emotions that could make others feel uncomfortable was not in my paradigm growing up. I quickly learned at a very young age to tighten up and shove my emotions deep down inside.  

What I didn't know then (but thankfully know now) is that by shoving my emotions deep down inside I never learned how to feel and allow the emotions move through and out of me.  

Instead, they all got stuck deep inside of my body. 

I know now that all emotions are energy and that when we push our emotions deep down inside of us, the energy stays there. Over time, we begin to feel more emotions and we push more emotional energy onto those older emotions.  

And it just keeps building. All the while our bodies and nervous systems are showing us little by little that something just does not feel right. 

But we are not taught to pay attention to the messages our bodies are sending us. In fact, most of us are taught to ignore the inner wisdom of our bodies. 

We are taught to push ourselves even when we are tired. 

We are taught that achievement means more than our health. 

We are taught to push, pressure, and strive for unattainable perfection (and moreover, we often beat ourselves up for not attaining the unattainable). 

Over time, years, or even decades, as these emotions and the energy are building, the whispers become louder.  

Eventually, our bodies give us no choice but to listen to them. 

Aches here. Pains there.  

Intestines feeling bloated, or constipated or irritable. Upset stomach.  

Chest tightness or pains. 

And the list goes on... 

Emotions are not bad. 

Feeling an emotion is not bad. 

Emotions have messages for us. 

They can tell us when something does not feel safe (maybe fear). 

They can tell us when our boundaries are crossed (maybe anger). 

They can tell us when something is just not right (maybe anxiety). 

They can tell us when something has been lost (maybe sadness or grief). 

I invite you to open yourself to being curious about your emotions.  

Take some quiet time and sit with that part of yourself that is feeling an emotion.  

Give yourself some space and some grace when your emotions feel big. 

Maybe you will find some clarity. 

Maybe you will feel a release. 

Maybe you will learn a lesson. 

Whatever you find, may you find more peace. 

In Kindness, 

Jen 

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